We want our children to give their best when they participate in extracurricular sports and activities. The problem is, we sometimes get so caught up that we actually make it harder for them to be successful in their moment. Here are some things for sports parents to think about. I am using Tae Kwon Do as an example because that is what I do.
Consider what your child has on their mind during the 60 or 90 second round in a sparring match:
Which technique should I throw?
• What technique is my opponent going to throw?
• What if I get hit?
• What did my coach just say?
• Are they cheering for me or my opponent?
• Where am I in the ring? Close to the boundary line?
• What are the rules about hitting the head again?
• What if I miss?
• What is the score?
• How much time do I have left?
• What did coach say to do when "this" happens?
You can imagine this a lot to think about. I promise you, they are barely able to hear and comprehend what the coach is saying to them with all the thoughts in their head. Well-meaning "advice" from parents on the sideline is adding just another element to all that is in their heads.
So, although you have good intentions with coaching from the sidelines, there are more productive options:
My son started the program at age 4 ½, he is now six and was immediately hooked. I am honestly amazed that he is a living embodiment of the tenets of Taekwondo - courtesy, integrity, perseverance, self-control, and indomitable spirit - at such a young age. Master Fox and Master Hagen prove on a daily basis that they are committed to my son’s success and that learning new things can be fun. I am extremely happy with how the program makes my son feel. And as a parent, I highly recommend the programs they offer.
My daughter began her TKD journey with Master Fox in September 2015. Not only has she achieved so much in the way of athleticism and sport, but she has gained an incredible amount of confidence, positive attitude and willingness to put herself out there and try new things.
We absolutely LOVE BucksMont Tae Kwon Do! The instructors are amazing with the kids! The older kids with the higher belts are always willing to help the younger belts. It makes me happy to see such dedicated kids and great teamwork throughout every class! (You can even stay and watch the class if you want.) We originally joined to help with focus with our daughter in school. We have already seen a difference! We are so happy we joined. Everyone there is amazing! I highly recommend joining!